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Master Your Mindset: Worrying is Praying for What You Don’t Want

Mindset is so important because as an entrepreneur, YOU basically decide if you’re going to succeed or fail. Your mindset dictates your actions. If going gets rough, are you going to choose to quit, or are you going to choose to move forward?

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Today we are going to be talking about one of my favorite topics in business: mindset.

Mindset is so important because as an entrepreneur, you basically decide if you’re going to succeed or fail. Ultimately your mindset dictates your actions and results.

And if the going gets rough, which in business, it inevitably does, are you going to choose to quit? Or are you going to choose to move forward?

I’m going to be sharing with you the mental skills on how to master your mindset.

Whether you think you can or cannot, you are right.

We’re going to be going through what the most dangerous type of thoughts are that go through your mind, and explain why you might think your mind is logical, but it really isn’t.

The Illogical Mind

You have to be able to identify when your mind is not being logical. This way, you can shift your mindset from seeing the worst case scenario to seeing the best case scenario.

This takes practice and it’s life-changing.

The other day I was taking a flight and I was reading a book. I came across the quote, “Worrying is praying for what you don’t want.”

As I was reading this quote, the plane hit turbulence. You hear the captain saying, “Everyone, put on your seat belts.” You hear panic in the air, and everyone’s shuffling and trying to get their seatbelt on.

As this was happening, and as I was reading this exact sentence in the book, I realized there and then how much your brain sabotages you.

During the flight, when there is turbulence, your mind assumes the worst, even though all the flights you have taken in the past turned out okay and you’re still alive.

When there is a slight bit of turbulence, your mind naturally just gravitates towards the worst case scenario, even though every flight you’ve taken in the past, it turned out okay.

With the same logic, as I was sitting in my seat, I thought to myself with that same logic, if everything in the past went wrong as an entrepreneur, what does that mean?

That there is an equal chance that everything moving forward would go right. But no one ever thinks like that as an entrepreneur.

Even if you’ve failed every single time you’ve tried, most people will be like, I’ve tried and I failed.

But those same people, when they get on flights, and they’ve taken so many in the past, as soon as there’s a little bit of turbulence, they’ll be like, nope, this is the one time that everything goes wrong.

It’s just so illogical.

Choose Your Thoughts Wisely

What’s also important to note is that as you’re sitting in that flight with turbulence, or as you’re sitting at your desk, or laying in bed, all of these thoughts that go through your head do not change your present reality.

All of these thoughts as an entrepreneur about running out of money, your thoughts about dying alone, or if you’re sitting on an airplane thinking you’re going to crash, these are all thoughts where you are praying for what you don’t want.

There are only 24 hours in a day. There are only so many thoughts that can physically or mentally be in our universe, only so many thoughts that you can have in a 24 hour day.

If you only have a certain number of thoughts every day, are you going to give your time and energy to those thoughts that do not serve you?

Or are you going to quickly realize that there is something wrong? That there’s something disempowering about your current thoughts and to change it so that you can take action towards a reality you actually want.

We all worry from time to time, we all have disempowering thoughts from time to time, it’s only natural.

But what is so important is for you to be able to recognize and realize when your mind is worrying illogically and to be able to course correct from there so that you’re taking action from a place of empowerment, rather than a place of worry and fear.

Self-Sabotage Examples

I want to demonstrate this by giving a recent example of how to course correct in action.

When I was in Brazil, this couple from the states had moved into our Airbnb right next door.

After a few days, the husband came up to me and was like, “Hey, Ragz told me that you do business coaching, and I feel like my wife would love and so appreciate your services. Do you think you can help her?”

I was like, “Yes, I would love to help!” I gave him my email, my Instagram, my website.

I was like, “If you have any questions, just let me know – I’m right next door where you can reach out if you have any questions.”

A few days went by and I didn’t hear from them to the point where I was leaving Brazil in 24 hours, and I was like, “I haven’t heard from them. Maybe she’s not ready.”

But then all of these doubts started creeping up into my head. I was like, what if she looked at my page and didn’t think I was the perfect coach or what if she thought I was too bubbly?

Or what if she thought that I was leaving and she really wanted someone to mentor her in person.

My mind just came up with so many excuses and funnily enough, like this doesn’t only happen in business.

This also happens in the online dating world, when you’re dating, and you don’t hear back from a guy and they don’t text you, or a girl doesn’t text you back.

You’re like, what if they think I’m ugly? Should I wait for them to text so I don’t seem too clingy? And all of these scenarios come up in your head.

And the thing is, they are all thoughts. When you’re operating at full potential, when you are acting from a place of confidence, you would respond differently to these thoughts and the current situation than if you were fearful or if you were self-conscious.

If I had continued thinking that the way that the wife didn’t want to work with me, I wouldn’t have done anything about it. I would have just continued waiting for fear of failure.

But because I am confident in my coaching abilities, because I knew I had what it took to help her get her business off the ground and into reality, before I left, I went up and knocked on her door and I just brought it up.

I was like, “Look, your husband told me you needed help. I gave him my contact details and we just didn’t hear from you.” And I just wanted to get an answer.

The first thing she says was, “Oh my God, I really wanted to but I didn’t know how to reach out to you. I didn’t feel ready. I didn’t feel confident in myself, but I would love to work with you.”

The reality was, it was her own world. It was things going on in her own mind that I was not even a part of. It had nothing to do with me.

These thoughts are more common than you think. Most of the time you will never find out it’s the other person.

Now, I’m able to notice them. It has gotten easier to not take things personally and act from a place of confidence.

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How to Master Your Mindset

Gratitude

Gratitude has been fundamental in my entrepreneurship journey. I keep a journal and every single day I write down gratitude prompts, even if I’m not feeling grateful.

Even if you think you have nothing to be grateful for, if you’re listening to this podcast, that is a luxury. There is always something to be grateful for.

Look around you and see how abundant everything is in this world.

Think about how capable you are, the capability that your able to change the thought’s in your head to be self aware enough, or the fact that you can actually change the course of your thoughts.

It should be empowering to realize that you have this power.

Focus on The Good

Now, I want you to think about what you’ve accomplished in your entire life.

Let’s focus on things that you are proud of, people you’ve helped, think about times in your life where you felt pure joy.

Make a list of all your wins in your life, relationship, friendships, and business.

You are so capable of feeling pure joy over all of this. This feeling is empowering.

Journaling

If you don’t journal, I highly recommend you do. It’s a practice that really has been able to just ground me and my business and manifests so many things that when I put it on paper, it’s not just a thought, it’s an actual goal.

If you don’t journal, I recommend you start journaling and start writing affirmations.

I actually have a list of affirmations that I set as my phone background. One of mine is I am always being discovered.

I also encourage you to write a page in your journal that you can look back on whenever you’re feeling kind of low or just not feeling your best, write a page and write down everything that makes you feel good.

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Conclusion

I want to end this podcast by giving you one task. And that is to take action.

What is the one thing you can do today that will get you one step closer to your goal?

Act upon it, and share it with me. See you in the next episode!

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Danielle Hu

Danielle Hu

Danielle Hu is a multiple 6-figure travel influencer, business coach, and Host of The Wanderlover Podcast. She has traveled to over 65+ countries running her online business and surfing in remote tropical destinations. Her mission is to help creatives and coaches achieve time freedom, location freedom, and financial freedom through online entrepreneurship.

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