Attracting Your Perfect Life Partner As a Nomad

I’m ENGAGED and over the moon!!! In this episode, I share behind the scenes, mindset tips, and actions that I took the past few years to manifest my perfect soul mate. It wasn’t easy especially as a digital nomad, but it is so possible. Whether you are traveling full-time or not — if you are looking to take the next steps in attracting your perfect life partner, tune in!

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I’m Engaged!

Oh my god, guys, I am officially engaged!

Engaged couple in Zurich Switzerland
Happiest day of my life!

Ragz proposed on my 30th birthday, so I rang in a new decade as a fiancé.

I am absolutely over the moon. Ragz and I have been together for over four years, but to hear him propose to have it be official to see the ring on my finger, it’s a feeling I’ve never experienced before and I feel so lucky and I am so grateful to have found my life partner. 

It happened in a way that was just incredibly aligned, and I called in this perfect match. Ragz did such a great job with the ring, I have a photo on my Instagram.

I honestly cannot stop staring at it, it’s just so shiny and so beautiful. The whole thing was unexpected and I still feel like I’m trying to process what happened.

We’re currently in Innsbrook, Austria, and this whole plan after Ibiza to drive down through France, through Germany, down to Austria was just completely unplanned. 

I had no idea that he was going to propose to me while we were here, but yet, here we are, and here I am and I could not be happier.

It’s really funny because I got three sets of engagement nails before my current set thinking that he would propose before I went to Ibiza for my birthday, and I was just constantly doing my nails thinking that he would propose.

At this point I was like, oh, you know, we’re at a new location. He’s probably not gonna do it here, but let me just make sure my nails look nice. 

I’m just so happy it happened this way. I am going to celebrate all month.

I am really channeling this energy and this excitement for this new decade today!

Digital Nomad Dating

In this episode, I really want to reflect back on the relationship, and give you some pointers and tips as to how you can attract your perfect life partner, especially if you are a digital nomad. 

I know a lot of you listening, you have location independent businesses.

And the truth is dating when you are traveling full-time is challenging.

You’re constantly on the move. People and places become transient. It’s hard to align long term goals when you’re so focused on your own.

So you kind of have to navigate the dating scene a different way. 

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Control What You Can Control

Life is unexpected and unpredictable and you cannot control other people.

You can only control what you can control.

If you focus on what you can control, and you are intentional with the things that you want, and you take the actions to support those intentions, you’d be so surprised at how things go your way, and how life can play out in just bigger and better ways than you can imagine.

My twenties were amazing and in my last episode I was literally calling in an even better decade.

A few days later I experienced one of the best days of my life so far.

I still tear up saying that because I just always think that there is something bigger and better out there for you. 

The universe wants you to have what you want.

Change Your Limiting Beliefs

The law of attraction states like attracts like, and you are able to live in the path of least resistance.

You don’t need to struggle.

The universe is working with you, but you cannot be sending mixed messages.

That is what I have trained myself to believe.

I come from an immigrant family, I was born in Beijing and my parents immigrated when I was two years old.

I grew up with a an immigrant mentality.

I grew up thinking I had to save every penny that I needed to struggle in order to live a good life.

In Chinese, we literally have this term called “chi ku”, and it’s like a glorified way of suffering because literally it means you are eating bitterness. 

You WANT to eat bitterness because you think you will reap more rewards, and it trains you to almost feel guilty when your life is going too well or when it is too easy.

You do not have to believe the recurring thoughts or the beliefs that you grew up with

You are able to change your thoughts if you want a different outcome.

So if you’re not happy with the way things are working out right now, if you’re listening to this episode seeking answers, I encourage you to first be super honest with yourself:

  • What do you believe to be true that is manifesting your current reality or situation?
  • What do you need to let go of so you can make space of what you actually want?
  • What new thoughts must you believe to attract a life and a partner that you desire?

Full disclaimer, I am not a relationship coach.

I am purely saying from experience and from the many, many conversations I’ve had with many, many of my friends, males and females, giving relationship advice, seeing a lot of trends, patterns from big cities to little towns, a lot of patterns that I see over and over also from my business experience and life experience from my research.

This is what I can say for myself and this is what has gotten me the results, and I really want to share them with all of you. 

Be Super Clear On What You Want

Going back to what I said about the Universe wants you to have whatever it is that you want, but you cannot send mixed messages.

The first step for you right now is to vision board exactly what it is that you want in your life. We do this for your business, and this is also applicable to your partner, to your relationships, to your hobbies.

Have a vision board because this is where you claim what exactly you want, not what anyone else in your life wants, and not what anyone else in your life wants for you. 

Claim what it is that you want and be honest with yourself.

On my vision board and Passion Planner years ago before I met Ragz, when I was ready to have a relationship, I wanted to be in a relationship and I made that super clear.

I also made a list of characteristics: every single characteristic I wanted in my future partner and every single characteristic I didn’t want in a partner. 

I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend of years. We were living together and I took a break from dating.

I worked on myself, I really wanted to heal.

When I felt ready to move on, that is when I made the list.

So if you’re at a place where you feel like healing is a first priority, I would not recommend this exercise.

But if you are ready to be in a relationship, and you are unapologetic about it, and that is what you want to call in, then this is the PERFECT first exercise for you. 

When I started vision boarding what I wanted to call in, it was a partner who loved to travel as much as I do. 

Someone who was so caring, so selfless, someone who loved adventures, loved surfing as much as I do, who wanted to travel the world, who would support all of my crazy ideas and all of these characteristics I wrote down.

Man and woman hugging on a beach smiling at the camera
Adventures around the world

There was no ifs. There was no question about what it is that I wanted.

I was so certain you need to get to a point where you won’t take no for an answer.

I wasn’t going to lower my standards. 

Having this filter makes it so much easier for you to judge who is worthy of your time, who is worthy of a second date, who is worthy of your energy and who isn’t.

When I was going through this, my mom sat me down and was like, you are crazy if you want a partner.

You should settle down because no one can match the speed at which you live your life. It’s probably going to be so hard for you to find someone because you’re constantly on the move.

That’s when I was like, I know my perfect match is out there. I am not going to let your doubts or your prior experiences or your views on the world change what it is that I want from my life.

I was so certain and there was no holding back. No one could talk me out of it.

This is kind of the tunnel vision I get when I set business goals for myself, when I quit my job, when I went from corporate to full-time traveler.

That’s exactly what I knew I wanted. 

You can listen to my other episodes on how you can find that for yourself and how you can basically attract pieces and aspects of other people’s businesses and lives into your own.

Being this way and thinking this way takes a lot of inner confidence in knowing that what you want might be non-traditional, but it’s going to work out and it always works out.

Take Different Actions to Get Different Results

A year after I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and moved away from New York City, I was back in the dating pool and I knew that I wanted a relationship.

Which meant that my potential dates and potential partner would have to meet all of the criteria that I had set out.

Every single one of my actions supported my intentions of wanting a relationship. 

This meant that I went out on dates, I surrounded myself with people who were single, so that I could meet new people and be open to meeting new people and finding a partner.

Because most likely it’s not gonna be someone you know, you have to be open to being introduced to people or going on dating apps.

You need to take different actions, so those were the different actions that I took.

Take Advice From People Who are Where You Want to Be

And then I only took advice from my friends who were in relationships. 

Listen only to people who are at a place where you want to be.

This was similar to how when I worked in a corporate job, I only took advice from people who were digital nomads or entrepreneurs. I didn’t listen to my coworkers.

So if you are trying to meet people, go out with people who are also trying to meet people.

But when you want relationship advice and what to do next, consult those people in relationships. 

This has been so helpful because so many times I’ll text like my single friends and my friends and relationships about a guy and I’m like, he did this to me, what should I do?

My single friends are like just go on another date, give him another chance.

And my friends in relationships are like “Hard no, if my partner did this to me, I would literally kick them out.”

So that’s how your position can affect the advice you give.

Obviously listen to the people who are successful in this area.

Taking advice from single people is like the blind following the blind.

Hold Yourself Accountable

Once you have all of these tools underneath you, you have this mindset going in that you want a relationship, you need to hold yourself to it.

If someone comes your way and they don’t meet those criteria, you have the power to say no. 

You have the power to stop seeing them. You have the power to let them stop treating you a certain way by acting up, speaking up or doing something to hold your intentions and your desires front and center.

It’s kind of like the universe testing you in a way.

Like here you go, here’s someone on a scale of 1 to 10 that maybe is a 5.

Will you take it? Do you have the confidence to say no? Do you have the faith that there is something better? And when you say no, a six will come along and then you’re like, hmm, do I settle? 

Eventually you’re going to get that 10.

You’re gonna be ready to take that 10 and the timing will align.

I see so many people who claim that they are dating or they want a relationship, but their actions do not support that.

They will intentionally go on dates with people who are clearly not a good fit for them, but they’re just trying so hard to make it work. 

They’re going on dates with people who don’t respect them, who are toxic, with so many red flags.

Learn From Your (Or My) Mistakes

If you can’t see that for yourself, you’re not going to find that perfect match.

Even if it is a match at first, it’s probably over time going to either result in heartbreak or in trauma.

I tried this once before and I learned from my mistakes.

When I knew I was ready to date again, I was committed. I was committed to finding my partner.

I was not committed to just finding hookups or finding someone to pass the time with. I was looking for a life partner.

It was so easy for me to say no to the people who did not fit that criteria, who did not treat me the way I wanted to be treated, who didn’t make me feel the way I wanted to feel while dating and in relationships.

I had absolutely no patience anymore for anyone who said that they were not ready for a relationship, who were unsure about relationships. 

It was a hard no until I met Ragz and he showed a level of commitment that I had never experienced before.

He showed a level of authenticity and care and humor that were just such perfect fits for what I was trying to call in.

He surfed, he was adventurous, he loved traveling. He had lived in so many different countries before. 

And I put in the work. I had flown to England twice over the course of a few months just to visit him. And when I booked a one-way flight to Argentina, he quit his construction job to go full time with Fern Colab.

This was eight months after we met, and we started traveling the world together.

He also took those actions to align with the life that he wanted.

He wanted to go see the world with me, so he did it. 

Man and woman in snowboarding gear at the top of a snowy mountain
From surfing to snowboarding

Reflect on Your Present Reality

  • What is it that you are telling the universe that you want?
  • Do your actions support that statement?
  • What is it that you might be one foot in, one foot out on?
  • Are you holding a part of yourself back because you’ve been hurt before?
  • Are you going on dates and saying you’re looking for a relationship when in reality you actually really love being single or you wanna take time out for yourself and just to heal? 
  • What is it that you want and what are the actions that you can do to support that full reality?

A few of my friends have commented, “Oh my god, I know this ring that you have on your finger is what you wanted”.

For years, I had it on my vision board. Everyone knew the ring that I wanted. Ragz knew the exact ring that I wanted, so there were no surprises.

I look at this ring on my finger and the one that was on my vision board, and it is identical.

Plus even better because underneath there’s a hidden halo, which I think is just super special because it’s this added touch that kind of like only I can see and I know it’s there.

So it can always, always get better. 

If you are a digital nomad and you are looking for your partner, they are out there.

Put Yourself Out There

If you are traveling and you want to call in that you want to date, you want to bring in someone into your life who loves traveling and adventure is the same as you do, then go out and meet new people!

Do not be afraid to open yourself up to say yes to going to bars, even if you’re not a bar person, to going to retreats, even if you’re not a retreat person.

Meet as many people as you can!

Volunteer, find hobbies, work on your yourself, meet people, and the chances of you connecting with someone else will be a lot higher than if you are just keeping to yourself, waiting for someone to pop in.

Which might happen, right? — And I really hope that for you, if that is what you want.

But your chances, it’s a numbers game, your chances are going to be higher with the more people and connections you make.

Do NOT settle. Settling is the worst thing you can do because over time your true colors are going to show, and it’s impossible to hide them for a lifetime. 

You do NOT want to do that.

I want you to thrive in every way, and I want your partner to do the same. And it is completely possible to find an aligned match.

Your perfect soulmate.

Use the filter system, find your support system, and I guarantee you that they are out there and it will happen for you in no time.

Sending you all so, so much love.

I am an absolute bliss and I’m just so excited for what this new decade, what the future holds. I will see you guys in the next episode! Have an amazing week. 

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Danielle Hu is a multiple 6-figure travel influencer, business coach, and Founder of The Wanderlover. She has traveled to over 65+ countries running her online business and surfing in remote tropical destinations. Her mission is to help creatives and coaches achieve time freedom, location freedom, and financial freedom through online entrepreneurship.

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